Hey thanks for sharing. I think a lot of guys, both gay and straight, get their first experience with someone older. A neighbor, a relative, a chance encounter on a trip somewhere. There’s a kind of a double standard where it’s okay if a younger guy “learns the ropes” from an older woman, but if it’s the other way around, or with an older man, people don’t react the same way. It’s always good to hear from guys who had that experience and had it in a way that was positive for them.
It’s hard to say what’s “perfect”. It really varies depending on my mood. But I love making out and body contact and taking time to explore every nook and cranny of the person I’m with. That was always a luxury with my son when he was at home, because we rarely had that kind of time. I’m pretty open, but anything that builds the passion and stretches out the experience for as long as it can go is what turns me on the most.
Hey man, thanks for the message. It’s good to hear from someone else who didn’t “start” with their dad until later in life. Too often people here “dad/son” and think about child abuse. It’s great that you have each other at this time in your life, especially after losing your mom. I think there are a lot of dads out there who would love to have the support of their son after a loss like that, even if it wasn’t physical at all, but just to be there for each other. Good for you guys!
Frequently Asked Questions
IMPORTANT: I DO NOT APPROVE OF OR ENGAGE IN SEX WITH MINORS. If that’s your thing, or if you are a minor, please leave this blog now. This blog is not for you. I am an adult, and so is my son, and this is a blog about consensual sex between two adults.
Q: Are you really a dad who has sex with his biological son?
A: Yes, or at least we used to.
Q: How old are you two?
A: I’m in my 40s and he’s in his 20s. We never did anything physical until after he was 18.
Q: How did it start?
That’s a long story, but the short version is that he came out to me as gay when he was in high school. A little while later, I came out to him as bi. We grew closer emotionally, talked about all sorts of stuff that I could never have talked about with my father when I was his age. Eventually the emotional relationship became physical, but it took a long time, and my son was the one saying “we should try it dad”, and I was the one saying “no”. Only after he turned 18, and only after I was satisfied that we both understood the ramifications of “crossing the line” did we ever lay a finger on each other. Even then, it was mostly just jerking off together. I was, and still am, very protective of my son, and didn’t want to do anything that would mess him up for the rest of his life. We did eventually have sex, but the physical side of our relationship didn’t last very long after he went off to college.
Q: Are you still married?
A: Yes. My son came out to my wife a little while after he came out to me. But, I’ve never told her that I’m bi.
Q: Does your wife know about you two?
A: No. I think it would just about kill her, and end our marriage for sure. Even if by some miracle the idea of father/son sex didn’t freak her out, there’s still the issue of my son and I both lying to her to conceal what we were doing.
Q: Do you still have sex with your wife?
A: Yes, sometimes. As we’ve gotten older, the sex has gotten rarer, but we still have sex sometimes.
Q: Why did you stop having sex with your son?
A: He left home and went to college. We actually kept having sex when he’d come home to visit the first year he was away, but I knew what we had wasn’t going to last long-term (the physical part, I mean) so I encouraged him to date guys his own age at school. He had a few flings, but eventually started dating a guy in college pretty seriously, and so I backed off so he could have a “normal” relationship and not one that he had to keep secret.
Q: Is your son’s boyfriend hot?
A: Yes, though I’m biased to think my son is still hotter, but they make a very cute couple.
Q: Does your son’s boyfriend know about you two?
A: No. We have an agreement not to tell anyone unless we both agree to it.
Q: Are you looking for a new “son”?
A: I get asked this a lot, or “Can I be your new son?” The fact is that I only have one son. I love him completely, and even though the idea of sex with another hot college jock sounds fun, it would only ever just be sex. I’m happy to be a fantasy “daddy” for any adult “sons” who message me though.
Q: Did you and your son ever do a three-way?
Nope. We talked about it a few times, but the trust issue made it impossible. We had too much riding on our secret to risk that.
Q: Which one of you was the top or bottom?
A: I’m a top, and I usually was with my son. But there were a couple of times that I let him fuck me. It was intense, but I think he’s the only person I’d let do that.
Q: Did you ever tie him up or spank him?
A: No. We weren’t into BDSM stuff. There was enough sweaty intensity between us (not to mention the fear of getting caught) that we didn’t need any extra stuff.
Q: Did you ever have sex with any other guys?
A: I’ve had some mutual j/o sessions with guys my own age growing up and as an adult, but my son is the only guy I’ve really ever had sex with.
Q: Are you still in contact with your son?
A: Yes, we talk all the time on the phone and on email. Most of it is just regular father/son stuff. He still likes to tease me sometimes, but we don’t have phone or email sex.
Q: Where are you located?
A: I’d rather not say, but it’s somewhere in the US.
Q: Are you on Kik/Skype/Snapchat/etc.?
A: No. I barely have time to keep this blog going and answer messages, let alone chat online with people.
Q: Can you post a pic of you or your son?
A: No. Because of the law and my marriage and his boyfriend, we have to keep our identities private. Thanks for understanding.
Q: Why are all the pics of white athletic guys?
A: My son and I are both white athletic guys. Since we can’t post pictures of ourselves, I try to post pics that remind me of us.
Q: What’s your policy on private messages?
A: I respond to everything privately unless you tell me otherwise or the message is sent anonymously. If I want you to respect my privacy, it’s only fair that I should respect yours.
Q: Isn’t incest illegal?
A: Father/son incest is illegal in the US, but the incest laws are different from country to country and even state to state. Most of the time incest laws are there to prevent a) birth defects from inbreeding and b) abuse of minors. Neither of those situations applies to us. I personally think that what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own home should be their own business, and it’s time that the laws were reformed. But, that’s just my opinion. I advocate changing the law; I don’t advocate breaking the law.
Q: I think dad/son sex is disgusting!
A: Then this probably isn’t the blog for you! But, I understand that there’s a social taboo, and that’s hard for a lot of people to get past. Hell, I had a hard time getting past it myself! I’ve heard plenty of horror stories about sons who were abused by their dads. Not all father/son sex is good. Most of the time, it probably is the product of abuse. But, the reason I started this blog is to show that that doesn’t always have to be the case. My son and I are both happy fully-functioning adults who shared an emotional bond that was and is deeper than I would have ever imagined. Even though the physical part is probably all in the past now, the close connection we have continues, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.
Hey thanks. It’s more work than it looks. I’m glad that some guys out there are getting something good out of it. Even if it’s just jacking off to the pictures. But, I like knowing some guys get more out of it too.
I don’t think you have to be intimate with your son. Most dads aren’t. But you do need to be a good father, and than means having some sort of relationship with him that supports him and pushes him to be the best man he can be. What you don’t need to be is distant and uninvolved or a bully and overinvolved. I think either one could result in a screwed up kid. And, for the record, I’d say having sex with your son when he doesn’t want to or can’t make adult decisions yet is being worse than a bully. Any good dad/son relationship needs to be built on love and mutual respect.
Yep, I got a response here:
Hey it’s the guy that found the incest videos. Sorry for taking so long to tell you what happened. Anyway, we confronted our dad about it and asked to join and he said yes. It was amazing. In the end my brother was on his hands and knees while our dad took his anal virginity, and he sucked me off while dad’s big brother fucked him, and his little brother fucked me. It was amazing, we fucked almost everyday, and we’re still having sex after our uncles left, and we all started going to a gay sauna
I get a lot of questions like this. The situation my son and I had was unique for us. It wouldn’t have happened if we both weren’t open to it. I haven’t gone out looking for another son, but I sure get a lot of offers. Maybe that’s the best advice. Put up a blog about yourself and what you’re looking for, and I’m sure some dads will be interested.
Bodybuilding twins, huh? Sounds pretty hot! Neither of us was really into anything BDSM. Just the fact that we were father and son and were making out together or fucking was enough to shoot bolts of electricity through my body. Still is.